5 Things Couples Regret Most
As the saying goes hindsight is 2020. If you ask any married couple about regrets or if there are things they wished they would have known or done when getting married, I am sure they will have at least one thing to say. I have compiled five of the most common regrets I hear from couples to share with you today.
First Look
It is traditional to not see your soon-to-be spouse until the walk down the aisle. Some will even go as far as to say that it's bad luck. There is a lot to be said about doing a first look with your significant other that can be very beneficial that some couples don't even realize.
Capturing just the two of you before the guests arrive, seeing each other for the first time can be magical and the time you get to take it all in together alone is unforgettable. Your wedding day will whisk by and the moments you have alone together will last a lifetime. Another benefit is getting a bunch of your couples photos out of the way. Some couples like to get all the wedding party and family pictures out of the way before the ceremony because it leaves a lot more time for you to enjoy the reception and your guests.
2. Enjoying The Process
It is easy to get all wrapped up in the wedding planning process and lose sight of the fact that this is a very exciting time in your life that you will never get back. Keep this in mind as you embark on this journey because it will fly. Don’t let yourselves get bogged down with other peoples opinions and live in the moment. Take things one step at a time and remember that this is about the two of you. Make sure to keep positive and remember what is most important at the end of the day, you and you're soon to be spouse.
3. Not Getting a Videographer
So many people regret cutting a videographer due to budget. Getting a videographer can be extremely pricey, but I promise it is worth every cent. So many couples think that with today's technology there really isn't a need for the wedding to be videoed or they think, “I won’t even watch the video so I don’t want to waste the money.”
Coming from a once upon a time Bride myself, you will want to watch your wedding back one day on an anniversary or to show your future children or reminisce and a few Instagram snaps will not do your wedding justice. I recently lost my grandparents and knowing that I can go back and see them, happy and smiling in our wedding video brings me a lot of peace. Those are memories that I can’t get back but I can see them again and again on our wedding video.
Also, you are on a high on your wedding day and you will not remember pieces of it or not get to see some funny dance moves or things happening around you because you are visiting with guests. A wedding video can be a priceless purchase and if you have a way to fit it into your budget, I highly recommend getting a videographer.
4. Not Hiring A Wedding Planner
This is a cost some couples tend to eliminate when wedding planning in the thought that they can plan everything by themselves. “I have enough help from my friends and family”, or “I read enough blogs on Pinterest” are common ideas that I have heard in the past. I am not here to say it isn't possible, because it is; but as your wedding gets closer things do get much more stressful and it becomes really hard to take on all the tasks and to-dos yourself or put these tasks on your loved ones.
Wedding planners are like fairy godmothers that take care of everything wedding and make sure to keep all the planning and tasks on track. Also, wedding planners are a great way to navigate through all of the outside opinions you will receive from parents, friends, co-workers, you name it. Having a wedding planner takes a lot of the stress off and a helping hand through the whole process so you never feel alone.
5. Taking It All In
A wise bride once said to remember to take a deep breath before you take the first step down the aisle. The wedding is on your timing and just stopping to take a breath and look around before walking down the aisle calms the nerves and taking time to remember each part is so important. You have been planning and excitedly waiting for this day for so long. Make sure to take those mental pictures along the way and just enjoy everything. Remember what the wedding is all about and don't let yourself get caught up in the stress of all the details that only you would notice. Just remember to be present and to celebrate the love between you and your spouse.
Happy Planning!
Naticia
